life coach rona 16 09 18 the little dash

 

On Friday we attended the funeral of a beloved man, Roy. He was ninety-four. His was a life well-lived.

Just two weeks prior to his passing his daughter asked how old he felt–on the inside. His response was “On the inside, I feel happy.”

His answer didn’t surprise me. Roy was a devoted and loving family man, a true and loyal friend, a man of many passions, a kind and wonderful neighbor to me and my family. He lived his life in accordance with his highest values. As a result, Roy was satisfied with his dash–that little line between the year we were born and the year we die that represents our lives.

I began to think about my own dash. As I reflected, I wondered:

- What does my dash stand for?
- Does it represent the best of who I am and what I have to offer?
- What mark will I leave in the hearts and minds of those I love, and those whose lives I've touched, if even for a moment?
- Does my dash reflect my highest values?
- What lessons will people take away from my life?

Today, take inventory of your dash. Together let’s recommit to showing up as our finest selves so that at the end of our days (and all the days before!) we, too, can say “On the inside, I feel happy.”

Rest in peace, Roy. (I know you will.)

 

life coach rona 16 09 05 be here now

 

We tend to postpone our happiness to some point in our future: when we get into that college; get that job; get the guy or the girl; get married; get that house; start a family; when the kids are out of diapers; when we take that vacation; when the kids are out of the house; when we retire…

Happiness is not out there. There is no there, there. Every time you arrive there, you are here–in this moment–the only place where happiness can be experienced. The future you have dreamed about and worked for is now.

Embrace your future–it is here! Live fully now.

 

 

life coach rona 16 08 28 quote

 

My mom has Alzheimer's. She has effectively lost her mind. I often wonder what that is like. My mom (and Dad!) have given me tremendous gifts throughout my life. The gift that Mom has given me during this phase of her life is to not take my own mind for granted.

I try to put it to good use–daily. I try to use my mind to curb my emotion if I am feeling angry, frustrated, or bummed out. I try to use it to help others. I try to use my mind to feel and express appreciation; to practice discipline; to overcome my fears; and to think about my behavior and the impact it has on myself, people in my circle, and the world around me.

I also try to use my mind to amplify the wonder of life–to remain fully present and available to experience awe, joy, hope, serenity, compassion, and love. Then I use my mind to put that same energy out into the world. My belief is (and science is now showing us) that if enough of us do this we can raise the energetic vibration of our planet. (LOVE that!)

Today, use your mind. Use it to awaken yourself, to engage more fully in your life, to dream a little bigger, to appreciate your loved ones, and to send loving-kindness out into the world.

Aim to never take that beautiful and precious mind of yours for granted! (Thanks, Mom.)