life coach rona 19 01 27roller coaster

It has been a difficult season in my life.

Watching those whom you love struggle and suffer, losing people whom you have loved and have loved you across a lifetime, postponing a dream, all have a way of making you feel as though you are losing your grip.

A grip on what? I am not sure. We never really have a grip on life, do we? We are passengers, along for the ride. I guess the point is to recognize that we are on the ride and learn to let go.

We can’t control the events of our lives. But we can learn to lean into the swerves, and bumps, and gain some know-how and confidence that we will be able to handle the next unexpected sharp turn with a little less fear, and a little more certainty that we won’t fly over the handlebar.

May we all steadily reach what we are reaching for and rejoice in all that we have already experienced.

In the New Year, let’s settle firmly into our seats and with the squeal and excitement of a little kid let’s throw our arms in the air with glorious courage, jubilation, a healthy dose of fear, reverence, and anticipation of what's to come!

Happy 2019, everyone––enjoy the ride! (Wheeeeee!!! 😆😁)

life coach rona 17 08 06 joy

“Happiness doesn’t exist on the far side of distant mountains. It is within you, yourself. Not you, however, sitting in idle passivity. It is to be found in the vibrant dynamism of your own life as you struggle to challenge and overcome one obstacle after another, as you clamber up a perilous ridge in pursuit of that which lies beyond.“ ~Daisaku Ikeda

I love the image this quote conjures up: that we are all heroes clambering the perilous ridge of our lives with an inner happiness in knowing that as we navigate, we are becoming a stronger and greater version of ourselves.

This little bit of text makes me grateful for my problems. (––Did I just say that?!   )

Yesterday, I attended our annual family reunion. As I caught up with my cousins it occurred to me that each of us has struggles and heartaches, AND times of great pleasure and feelings of deep hope.

As I drove home I felt proud of my extended family. We live well, we hurt, we work, we love, we stumble, we grow, and we laugh.

I began to wonder: do we love and laugh despite our problems, or do we love and laugh because of our problems? ––Perhaps it is a little bit of both, and perhaps that is the beauty and point of it all.

Joy is in the contrast––in the interaction of the different forces in our lives that cause us to have a perspective and an appreciation for what is good and right––right now.

The contrast of what breaks our heart, against the little things that warm it, is what makes those little things so sweet, meaningful, and of great import in our lives.

“...Happiness is found in the vibrant dynamism of your own life…”

Embrace the climb and feel the joy!

 

life coach rona 17 07 31 rabbit

 

We have all been in a foul mood, but have you ever been in a fallow mood?

Lately, I have been in kind of a foul mood. (Argh! 😝) This happens to me when I am feeling unproductive, unmotivated, or uninspired.

Rather than go down the well-worn path of berating myself, I practiced a little self-compassion instead. I stayed curious and began to question what might be going on. I discovered that if I could drop the judgment about it, where I was felt good and right.

I decided to embrace the fact that decluttering, organizing, hanging out with my daughter, reading, felt way more appealing than anything work related.

So I did those things without guilt. And you know what? My foul mood gave way to a sense of peace.

A client once used the word “fallow” to describe her week. I had never heard of the word so I looked it up. Dictionary.com defines fallow as 1. (of land) left unseeded after being plowed and harrowed to regain fertility for a crop; 2. (of an idea, state of mind) undeveloped or inactive, but potentially useful.

It occurred to me that part of me is always supercharged about evolving my work, but there was another part of me that had the wisdom to know that laying low to replenish is sometimes necessary to cultivate fertile ground for what lies ahead.

––Sometimes, doing nothing is exactly what we are called to do! (Yay! 😃)

So the next time you feel in a funky mood, check in with yourself to see if you, too, don't need to lie fallow. Then give yourself permission to rest, restore, and recharge so that you can once again be and give your very best––to yourself, your loved ones, and your work.